I have a sister – just one. For 7 years of being the only child, a spoiled little princess some would say, I had a taste of heaven when my one and only sister came into my life. A sister was all I ever wanted. Not clothes, not toys, not dolls, not money, just one sister. The birth of my younger sister made her the joy, the light and rainbow of our home.
On the other hand, I am far from perfection and Reine is not perfect herself either, which results to an imperfect relationship as siblings. We don’t fight like cats and dogs. We’re actually pretty normal with opposite personalities. Although conflicts get in the way at times that make us argue about certain things. As the older sister, I see myself as the one responsible in our sisterhood. God granted me my prayer request – a sister – not for any other reason but to take care of her. Slowly yet surely, God has been guiding me to walk towards the path of being the best sister for her. Despite the struggles, I’ve come up with practical ways I want to share in becoming the best sister for Reine.
How to be the Best Sister:
The 7 years age gap means our generation is quite a distance from each other. Well, not that far like our parents but this fast-paced internet world we live in advances the younger ones in learning more than we could ever imagine. Reine is still in high school while I’m already finished with my collegiate life. It is important for me to stay updated with the trends of the teens, who her friends are, what flicks attract her, or even the kind of boys surrounding her, in order to guide and relate to her. My job is to show her she could talk to me anything under the sun, the rain, the storm or whatever the weather is. Often times, teenagers choose to talk to their friends rather than their family members feeling only their friends could understand them. In this way, we maintain a comfortable level in communicating no matter what the topic is.
3. Be humble and ask her how you can improve as a sister.
Try to understand the areas where she needs help and be the first one to volunteer to help her. I’m kind of weak at this certain point. So I still make an effort to check where I could help her. For instance, she joined a contest on facebook in order for her to win tickets to upcoming theater shows. I know I wanted to help her but I didn’t place my full effort until the last minute, the last day of the contest specifically. During the last day of the contest, I messaged everyone online and told them to LIKE my sister’s facebook post for her to win the tickets. I felt like a spammer messaging everyone the same thing over and over. With all our efforts, she successfully won the tickets. I felt like a winner with her. We were both screaming and celebrating with each other after the official announcement of the winner. Whew! 🙂
5. Treat her as your best friend.